No person is challenge free. We all have something we are working through, reflecting on and processing. The level of awareness of each process is largely dependent on how awake we are at that moment of our life. Along, with the willingness to go introspective, be forthright and honest with ourselves. The introspection allows us to be open and see at hand how we can grow from the experience and what we are meant to offer in that space of our life to others.
A question I have been asking myself lately is, ‘Who is my highest self?’ I ask myself this question in times of challenge. This question to myself draws me back to a greater purpose and gives me the permission to fully show up with grace.
As a Stepmom, I realize I walk a fine tightrope with society and the perception placed on me. As well, as my place in my home and the relationship with my stepchildren. I’m not apart of the ‘mom’ crowd. Well, because I’m not. I haven’t found a support group for stepmoms, nevertheless ‘childless’ stepmom. Yet...
I teach
I coach
I encourage my stepchildren to be themselves, live with love, compassion and respect. We’ve created a culture in our family unit (home) to be individuals, express our needs and feelings. That it’s okay to have limits. Those are your healthy boundaries. To look outside of ourselves, to think about each of as a unit and how our behavior positively affects the culture and environment of our home or how it negatively impacts all of us within the household.
I manage the house, kids activities, cook, clean, bedtime stories, school pick-up, drop-off, teach counting, the alphabet, encourage creativity, being active outside, how to ride a bike, soccer games and practice, brushing teeth, tucking in, goodnight kisses and sweet dreams.
I teach driving, resume building, applying for jobs, college prep, healthy cooking, weight training, benefits of being organized, follow through, accountability, life empowerment talks, how to manage a bank account, balance a check book, going after your dreams means focus and dedication.
I do this without ‘I love you’ in return. This challenges my ‘highest self’, teaching me unconditional love, patience and grace.
